Stop Fetishizing Asian Women
The messages I received on Tinder made me delete the dating app in one day
I remember when I first heard about Tinder. I promised myself I wouldn’t download the app. For some reason, I thought nobody would swipe right on me. Everybody around me was white, and I was not. I didn’t think anyone would want to date me.
But the opposite happened.
I had many matches. Perhaps too many. The first messages I got from these men made me uncomfortable.
I have never tried a woman like you before. Will you be my first experience?
You look so exotic, I love that.
Asian girls are my favorite. They’re so naughty!
These kinds of messages made me delete the dating app in just one day. A lot of my non-Asian friends didn’t understand what was wrong with these messages when I told them about it. “They’re compliments,” they said.
These messages are not compliments. While I initially was scared no one would swipe right on me, reading these messages made me feel like I was an alien. It felt dehumanizing. These men were attracted to me because of how I looked and not because of who I am as a person. I was a conquest to them, a trophy they get to show off to their friends later.
